Be Kind To The Downtrodden

Be Kind To The Downtrodden The following post was really hard to write. Ive been thinking about it for months. As you read this you might wonder about JibberJobbers current state and future. Dont worry about that this is all stuff during my time unemployed. Currently JibberJobber has the capital and cash flow for at least the next 3 years. The point of this post is summed up in the very last paragraph. I went from General Manager to Unemployed (yes, that has a capital U). I was the average American, living from paycheck-to-paycheck but at least I could pay for things like my brakes going out, or a plumbing leak. And overnight I became the neighbor, friend or guy in church that didnt have a job. It was embarrassing, degrading and unsettling. I really didnt expect help from anyone because when I saw people between jobs I didnt help them. I didnt know what I could offer them. I couldnt imagine taking some of my money to give to them as charity. I can see now that I was a Scrooge. Partly because I didnt want to give my loot away, and partly because I didnt know how to do it gracefully. But over this last year my family has been the recipient of various forms of charity. And Ive discovered just how valuable a little bit of thought and help means. I hope this post can inspire you to be a little kinder, a little more open-minded, and maybe even pay it forward for someone that you know that is having problems right now. Here are some of the most amazing, meaningful things that have happened to us since weve been laid off (some where anonymous, some where not): Someone left us $600 in gift cards to our local grocery store. People left us clothes and food on our porch. Someone paid $200 to a utility bill (about 3 or 4 months worth). Good friends who had been out of work for months brought over two boxes of food and shared survival techniques for about an hour, leaving us in much better spirits. Someone left $100 in our mailbox, with a very kind note. Various church members chipped in and asked our congregation leader to give us some cash for Christmas. A family sponsored us for Christmas. Our kids got amazing toys and clothes, stuff that we wouldnt have bought even if we had a job! Our neighbor brought over frozen dinners from MyGirlfriendsKitchen very helpful considering my wife taught piano until about 5:30 and both of us were way stressed to pre-plan dinners. My wifes good friend invited her out to Chiles for a lunch just the girls. Something that we wouldnt budget for, a very nice treat, and encouragement to make it through. A piano students mom paid an extra $120 one month. Just because. My wife went to a movie/lunch play date with the kids and another mom insisted on paying for our family. Our parents immediately chipped in with loans no terms, no expectations. My dad said Ill expect you to be out of work for at least six months I couldnt believe that, I thought Id be back to work in about four weeks. But he was right. The job search was long and fruitless. It was incredible knowing that his support would not turn sour after a couple of months. It was depressing enough, I didnt need a major supporter to have a deadline associated with the support. He also bought me a cell phone, attached to his plan, and he called me every day. See, he had been unemployed for a while after law school, and knows how discouraging it can be, and wanted to chat and gauge my mental state. I think it cost about $10/month extra but it allowed me to have a cell phone in hopes of getting a call from an employer, and the show of support was invaluable. People would share produce with us a bag of fruits and vegetables. It was nice to not worry that our kids were going to get scurvy from a no-produce diet. When I cut my hand open my doctor didnt charge me. And later I went in for something else and he didnt charge me. I didnt abuse this, but how amazing it was that the Doctor considered my situation and saved me over $70 for each of these visits. Our neighbor-plumber came to fix things on two ocassions. And we never got a bill. They said to not worry about it. Many friends and neighbors would quickly offer us contacts. This cost nothing but allowed us to begin networking (remember, we were fairly new to the area and didnt have a bunch of network contacts). A neighborhood family that owns a successful business invited our family to go to a local amusement park with their company for the day. We NEVER would have afforded this, and thought this type of celebration would have been years away. All we had to pay was gas, and even then they gave us some spending cash. Im not sharing this so you can see how cool we are. Or how blessed my family has been. Its hard to receive charity. Its humbling. I went too school to darn long to have to scrape by like this. Im sharing this with the hope that you can reconsider someone that is in need, and without judging their situation, why they are there or what they should be doing, figure out a meaningful way to help them, lift their spirits, help them get through one more day or one more week. Each of the things listed above (and more that arent listed) have brought a huge amount of gratitude, tears, and a desire to be more helpful to those that are downtrodden. Please, think of someone to help this week. And do something significant for them (it may be insignificant to you). You have no idea how much of an impact you will have. Be Kind To The Downtrodden The following post was really hard to write. Ive been thinking about it for months. As you read this you might wonder about JibberJobbers current state and future. Dont worry about that this is all stuff during my time unemployed. Currently JibberJobber has the capital and cash flow for at least the next 3 years. The point of this post is summed up in the very last paragraph. I went from General Manager to Unemployed (yes, that has a capital U). I was the average American, living from paycheck-to-paycheck but at least I could pay for things like my brakes going out, or a plumbing leak. And overnight I became the neighbor, friend or guy in church that didnt have a job. It was embarrassing, degrading and unsettling. I really didnt expect help from anyone because when I saw people between jobs I didnt help them. I didnt know what I could offer them. I couldnt imagine taking some of my money to give to them as charity. I can see now that I was a Scrooge. Partly because I didnt want to give my loot away, and partly because I didnt know how to do it gracefully. But over this last year my family has been the recipient of various forms of charity. And Ive discovered just how valuable a little bit of thought and help means. I hope this post can inspire you to be a little kinder, a little more open-minded, and maybe even pay it forward for someone that you know that is having problems right now. Here are some of the most amazing, meaningful things that have happened to us since weve been laid off (some where anonymous, some where not): Someone left us $600 in gift cards to our local grocery store. People left us clothes and food on our porch. Someone paid $200 to a utility bill (about 3 or 4 months worth). Good friends who had been out of work for months brought over two boxes of food and shared survival techniques for about an hour, leaving us in much better spirits. Someone left $100 in our mailbox, with a very kind note. Various church members chipped in and asked our congregation leader to give us some cash for Christmas. A family sponsored us for Christmas. Our kids got amazing toys and clothes, stuff that we wouldnt have bought even if we had a job! Our neighbor brought over frozen dinners from MyGirlfriendsKitchen very helpful considering my wife taught piano until about 5:30 and both of us were way stressed to pre-plan dinners. My wifes good friend invited her out to Chiles for a lunch just the girls. Something that we wouldnt budget for, a very nice treat, and encouragement to make it through. A piano students mom paid an extra $120 one month. Just because. My wife went to a movie/lunch play date with the kids and another mom insisted on paying for our family. Our parents immediately chipped in with loans no terms, no expectations. My dad said Ill expect you to be out of work for at least six months I couldnt believe that, I thought Id be back to work in about four weeks. But he was right. The job search was long and fruitless. It was incredible knowing that his support would not turn sour after a couple of months. It was depressing enough, I didnt need a major supporter to have a deadline associated with the support. He also bought me a cell phone, attached to his plan, and he called me every day. See, he had been unemployed for a while after law school, and knows how discouraging it can be, and wanted to chat and gauge my mental state. I think it cost about $10/month extra but it allowed me to have a cell phone in hopes of getting a call from an employer, and the show of support was invaluable. People would share produce with us a bag of fruits and vegetables. It was nice to not worry that our kids were going to get scurvy from a no-produce diet. When I cut my hand open my doctor didnt charge me. And later I went in for something else and he didnt charge me. I didnt abuse this, but how amazing it was that the Doctor considered my situation and saved me over $70 for each of these visits. Our neighbor-plumber came to fix things on two ocassions. And we never got a bill. They said to not worry about it. Many friends and neighbors would quickly offer us contacts. This cost nothing but allowed us to begin networking (remember, we were fairly new to the area and didnt have a bunch of network contacts). A neighborhood family that owns a successful business invited our family to go to a local amusement park with their company for the day. We NEVER would have afforded this, and thought this type of celebration would have been years away. All we had to pay was gas, and even then they gave us some spending cash. Im not sharing this so you can see how cool we are. Or how blessed my family has been. Its hard to receive charity. Its humbling. I went too school to darn long to have to scrape by like this. Im sharing this with the hope that you can reconsider someone that is in need, and without judging their situation, why they are there or what they should be doing, figure out a meaningful way to help them, lift their spirits, help them get through one more day or one more week. Each of the things listed above (and more that arent listed) have brought a huge amount of gratitude, tears, and a desire to be more helpful to those that are downtrodden. Please, think of someone to help this week. And do something significant for them (it may be insignificant to you). You have no idea how much of an impact you will have.