Who Does What How My Wife And I Divvy Up Chores With 4 Boys Under the Age of 7

Who Does What How My Wife And I Divvy Up Chores With 4 Boys Under the Age of 7 For most of human history, the who does what of housework welches pretty clearly spelled out, with gender determining each partners specific role and contributions. Thankfully, thats (mostly) no longer the world we live in, but theres still no rule book for helping partners figure out how to divvy up household chores the physical, mental,andemotional ones in a way thats fair and equitable.So, what does the division of household chores for modern couples look like, really? In FGBs Who Does What series, we asked couples to complete an exercise in order to share with us the amount and nature of housework they actually do, and how they decided to divvy it all up.--NameTom MaryniarczykLocationToronto, OntarioRelationship statusMarriedWhat schriftart of home (e.g, condo, house) do you have?HouseDo you have any kids or pets?4 boys (7,4,2,5 all boys) 1 cat (way too old)How long have you and your partner been to gether?12 yearsHow long have you been living together?9 years--What chores do you do daily, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.I do everything that involves tools, the pool, leaves, or snow. She manages the cooking, laundry, childrens needs, and social calendar. General domestic tasks are done by whoever has time / whoever is not holding the baby.What chores do you do weekly and/or monthly, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.Outdoor tasks, taking kids to karate, skiing, and soccer. Part of the grocery shopping, during lunch at work. General tidying up when walking by a mess with four kids, its a daily occurrence. I also do the cat litter, even though Im allergic to the rascal.How about your partner? What chores do they do daily, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Everything else cooking, laundry, kids stuff. Shes better at these, so she does them.What chores does your par tner do weekly and/or monthly, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Theres little spare time when you have four young kids, so when you have free minute or two, you do something that needs done.Is the way you and your partner divide tasks similar to the household you grew up in? Why or why not?Probably similar, except my father cooked more than my mom did, and more than I do. Mom worked later, while his work schedule better aligned with being able to get dinner on the table.Whats something you and your partner could improve on when divvying up and completing household tasks? Whats something you feel youre doing well?We could bring someone in to take more task off both our plates. The split we have now works pretty well, although she would say I should cook more. Id like to, but I dont have the time or creativity to work around all the young picky eaters we brought to this world.Lightning Round1. Who makes the bed?Who has time for that?2. When you go out to eat, who picks the restaurant and/or makes the reservation?We have four kids. We dont go out to eat.3. Who makes doctors appointments? Dentist appointments?She does.4. Who picks up the dry cleaning?We live in the suburbs clothes that require dry cleaning are forbidden.5. Who keeps track of friends and family members birthdays?She does.6. Who pays bills? (Or if you divvy this up, who pays which bills?)I do.7. When something in the house/apartment is broken, who makes sure it gets fixed?I fix it.8. Who makes sure the tags on your cars are up-to-date?I do.9. Who vacuums?Whoever has time.10. Who was the last person to dust something?The cleaning lady.11. Who was the last person to clean your toilet?Dont recall could have been either of us.12. Who buys groceries?Whoever has time. She makes the list when I do it.13. Who brings in the mail?She does.14. Who irons?Each iron our own stuff.15. Who was the last person to clean out the fridge/pantry of expired items?This is a thing /task real people do? I pic k something up, if its good, we eat it if its past expiry, its gets tossed.16. Youve been invited to a wedding. Who RSVPs?We have four kids. No one invites us anywhere.17. When planning a trip, who books the flights? The hotels?I do.18. Who planned what you did last Friday night?Putting kids to bed and falling asleep shortly after doesnt require that much planning.19. Who planned your last date night?Dont remember.20. You need a gift for a friends housewarming feier. Who buys it?Take a wine off the rack.21. Who goes to parent-teacher conferences?We both go, if we can.22. When you need a babysitter, who is the one to book and communicate with them?She does.23. Your child(ren) has a half-day at school. Who handles this, and how?Either, depending on work schedules on that day.24. Who takes your child(ren) to their extracurricular activities? (If you divvy this up, who goes to what activity?)Whoever has the time /isnt tied up with something else.25. Who planned the last birthday party f or a child?She did.26. Who took your child(ren) to get a vaccination last?We both did.27. Your child acted out. Who will discipline them, generally?She is most likely to do it.28. Your child needs a haircut. Who notices this, and who makes the appointment? Who takes them to the appointment?Theyre all boys, so its easier to cut their hair at home. Either one of us does it.29. Your child is about to outgrow their shoes. Who notices this, and who takes them to the shoe store?She does.30. The last time you got a call from the school nurse that your child was sick, what did you and your partner do?Brought him home.31. During weekends and vacations, who considers the childrens needs for entertainment, meals and their schedule (in general)?She does, unless its skiing. Then I do.--Interested in participating in FGBs Who Does What series? Email infofairygodboss.com with Who Does What in the subject line.